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The Sexual Chore Chart

Monday, April 16, 2012

So... I've been thinking, about chores. Nasty word, I know, but the stuff that has to be done that makes us nuts, that we hate. The men in our lives just don't get it, they don't help. But what if they had incentive? Every mom in the world has at one time or another instituted a chore chart in their home. The really good mommies stick too it and based on what they tell me (this I would not know) it works. Would it work for men? Well... since men are basically giant, overgrown children, I am thinking yes.

What if every chore had a value attached to it? Of a sexual nature?

Let's face it, men don't do chores willingly, most of them. If you have  a man that does you are one of the lucky ones... trust me. I have been talking to my girlfriends and the overwhelming opinion is that they don't help and we are always tired. Tired of laundry, cooking, cleaning, organizing, ironing, scrubbing floors, toilets, folding, putting away.... oh the dreaded putting away of the clean laundry. There are just not enough hours in the day, whether you are a working mom or not. I have been both and either way you are often just exhausted at the end of the day and bitter about how much you have to do. When you go to bed at night are you ready to be sexy and throw down with your man? After wiping butts and noses all day or working you ass off in the office, racing to daycare, trying to put a healthy meal on the table, doing homework, driving to endless activities...are you really in the mood? Well, you might be... say if he came home and did more than sit on the couch and catch up on the  sports scores, read the paper ,play online poker, computer games, go for a himself...grrrr.

Could this work? I mean men pretty base right? I presented this to on of my guy friends and I think he was kind of put off by it. He said sex should always come before work. Oh really???? When is the last time your man got out of bed after sex and vacuumed or folded a load of laundry? How about never. I am going to get to work on this chart and make one of my married friends test out this theory!

Staying together for the kids...

I just read an article about this and it is something I have struggled with for a very long time. Is it ever the right thing to do? And when is... when is it not? I have made my decision and it has been hard... really hard. The thing that surprises me most, even in this article is how many people think you should stay, and why. I have a couple of close friends who have urging me in that direction for the last couple of years and it has made me so mad on virtually every occasion. I just don't see why you stay together if you are not happy, in love, kind to each other ot unable to be civil. This has been on my mind for days, bugging me. Today, in this moment, I don't think that people really change. And given that why should you stay together for the kids? If you are not able to change and fix things for yourself or each other you are certainly not going to do it for the kids. Agree or disagree?
Perfect blue. I want this in my home! Although in my house it would be covered with Lego's and most likely a barbie or two.