For example, I have a fancy planner and I take pride in looking at the pages fill up with meetings, appointments, outings, parties, obligations, etc. If it's blank I panic a little thinking I need to find things to do or make a list or something to fill in the gaps. But... I have never even considered scheduling my down time. In fact a couple weekends ago I planned (in my mind) a Sunday to watch Netflix or read and after a short time I started to feel immensely guilty. Which actually pissed me off to no end. I should be ok with laying around and doing nothing, everyone needs a break, I need a break! But I got up, got dressed, made some calls and met friends for tennis. Now that, in and of itself, is not bad, it's good. The point is I felt bad about doing nothing. Think about that for a minute. I don't ever feel bad about "doing things" for myself i.e. shopping, lunch out, a movie, a massage. I do however feel like I shouldn't be "doing nothing" at least not often. And frankly that's wrong, maybe even self destructive. I need time to do nothing. We all do.
Now I know a lot of people reading this will say "oh I already do that" and if so good for you. But really? A girl friend of mine quit my tennis team recently. She said life was just too busy which was "good and bad". How is it good when you are so over scheduled that you have to give up something you truly enjoy? Women and parents in general are notoriously guilty of this. I see it all the time. Kids are involved in so many sports and activities that parents are relegated to your basic taxi service during non-working hours. Don't even get me started on the fact that super busy kids with no down time are a source of pride for the modern parent. What exactly are we raising here? A new generation of hustlers who constantly need to be doing something. I disagree with that.
For the next few weeks I am going to schedule in my "do nothing time" when I open up my planner for the week. Do nothing to me doesn't mean sit and meditate and one hundo do not a thing... it means, read, Netflix, a movie, binge watch something, take a hot bath, catch some Z's. It means minimal effort and thought required, zone out time, go to la la land with zero fucks given. (As a blogger this makes me cringe because there will be nothing blog-able during this time whatsoever.) As a fan if the Snapchat this will be great because snap chat is all about the moments when you are not perfect or staged or done. I really like Snapchat by the way. As a fan of a more stress free life I think this will help me settle down a bit without popping a xanax, my anxiety has been back full force of late.
So what do you think? Are you overscheduled? Do you get what I mean about the constant need for everyone to shout from the rooftops how busy they are hustling? That life , when I am in it, makes me super stressed and it's hard to actually come down and rest but it can be addicting.
And just so we can leave this on a less serious note, the urban dictionary even has some terminology for what I am proposing we all do more of... kicking dicks...
Now Go Relax.