tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3543567497932789308.post1184898755038965311..comments2024-03-27T03:37:44.203-04:00Comments on THE CRAZY WISE WOMAN: The Marrying Kind - I'm Not, Are you?Amy @The Crazy Wise Womanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09874810213852628465noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3543567497932789308.post-83279349844941105092014-04-24T10:01:08.829-04:002014-04-24T10:01:08.829-04:00This is why I started following you, our commonali...This is why I started following you, our commonality, being divorced. Bleh! It's not the worst thing that could've happened, but it sure rocked my world. I wonder the same things all of the time. I want to be in a loving relationship, and I would get remarried, but for the love of all things pretty and sparkly, it is the HARDEST thing in the world. I thought love made everything work in harmonious balance, and then you add work, kids, house and general life, and love is put on the back burner cuz life gets real. Sigh, I've dated lots of DB along the way, but I'm having to wonder if I'm really cut out for a real relationship. One that I have to compromise on and bend, one that doesn't just make me feel good, but one that is mutually give and take. Can you tell I've thought about this a time or two?!? I think it takes that real special person to make anyone want to get married for the right reasons, and if we EVER get to meet him, then we'll be happy to blend our lives. Until then, let's be happy being ourselves, with ourselves :-) xoxoWendy @ Embracingchange34.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04551019698075031617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3543567497932789308.post-4326166339875858482014-04-23T14:06:13.046-04:002014-04-23T14:06:13.046-04:00I never wanted to get married. MFD and I were toge...I never wanted to get married. MFD and I were together for 8 years before we got married. We bought a house together too - to me, joint property is more binding than marriage. <br /><br />We got married because he wanted to and because it was important to him. I could have never been married and been totally fine. SMD @ lifeaccordingtostephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09884611147965544589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3543567497932789308.post-56890362674392814212014-04-23T08:48:49.587-04:002014-04-23T08:48:49.587-04:00I did not say that "all men need marriage&quo...I did not say that "all men need marriage" and that is not my point of view at all. I said that men are the marrying kind and most don't do well alone. Big difference! And as for the feminists lol... I don't give much credence to their opinions anyway. I could say all women are female and they would likely argue!<br />I think marriage is a great institution for a lot of people, just not for me at this point in my life! Thanks for your comment!Amy @The Crazy Wise Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09874810213852628465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3543567497932789308.post-85687443186098893102014-04-22T17:53:45.366-04:002014-04-22T17:53:45.366-04:00I have a hard time seeing your point of view on &q...I have a hard time seeing your point of view on "all men need marriage." My current boyfriend was single for a decade before we got together--by his own choice. And he, like me, is in absolutely no rush for marriage. I just think it's absolutely and totally unfair to group all men together. Feminists would have a shitfit if you said 'all women need a man'. The opposite is no less judging. <br /><br />Otherwise, I agree with your post. I find marriage to be completely unnecessary and not only something that rarely lasts as long as it's supposed to, but also something that 1) a great side population isn't even legally allowed in some states, and 2) the money is such an absolute waste. I was married and didn't spend hardly anything on it. A little courthouse marriage with a dress I already had. But we're now going through a divorce and I just can't see that it was worth it in the slightest. I guess I'm creeped out by the tradition, but most traditions creep me out. Alhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06742580853401318176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3543567497932789308.post-28531765592832455102014-04-22T14:33:23.902-04:002014-04-22T14:33:23.902-04:00The blending families scares the crap out of me. I...The blending families scares the crap out of me. I have 3 kids, can't imagine more of someone else's! I know I don't want to work that hard again! Thanks Kelly!Amy @The Crazy Wise Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09874810213852628465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3543567497932789308.post-78146125018334900612014-04-22T14:22:48.657-04:002014-04-22T14:22:48.657-04:00I am currently married, 11 years, and you are righ...I am currently married, 11 years, and you are right it is HARD! But in my case that comes from blending a family and those difficulties not from the hubs. He is actually my best friend. But if we were no longer together I don't think I would ever get married again...it's just to hard and maybe I don't think I have it in me to work that hard again. Call me lazy but that's how I feel. I say do what makes YOU the happiest because in the end that's what matters.Kelly M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16962671466389789182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3543567497932789308.post-11763331376931551492014-04-22T12:49:24.692-04:002014-04-22T12:49:24.692-04:00I don't think there's anything wrong with ...I don't think there's anything wrong with either choice... to get married or to stay single. To me, it's like having kids. People give me shit all the time b/c I don't want kids. It's a HUGE ass decision and a personal one... which means it's different for EVERYBODY! Do yo' thang!Amanda - Voyage of the MeeMeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08820601784610439713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3543567497932789308.post-63973361610321975842014-04-22T10:50:38.285-04:002014-04-22T10:50:38.285-04:00i never thought i was going to get married either ...i never thought i was going to get married either and when i met my now-husband, i was perfectly happy just living together because i knew we were meant to be together. to me, marriage is just a piece of paper so if it didn't happen, i would've been fine. <br /><br />-kathy<br /><a href="http://www.lifeinprogress.ca" rel="nofollow">Vodka and Soda</a><br />Kathy@MoreCoffeeLessTalkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044005966979731361noreply@blogger.com