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Thursday Confessional

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Thursday, June 15, 2017
So....I got hit on by an old dude at Dunkin Donuts this week, like grandpa retirement age old. I stopped to pick up 2 boxes of coffee and a couple dozen donuts for an early meeting Tuesday without preordering and had to wait for them to brew fresh coffee ... my mistake. You know how you can feel someone staring at the back of you just instinctively? Yeah, as I was waiting for my order I could feel that, and then Gramps spoke. Best line ever... "where's the party". I about died laughing thinking dude, my kinda party does not consist of  shitty donuts and 2 boxes of Joe. But nice try. We chatted for a few minutes while I waited and I think I made his day. Pretty sure I saw him doing a little happy dance when I was driving away. I love old people.

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My upstairs A/C has officially broken. My repair guy told me last summer that adding Freon was just a temporary fix and now the worst has come to pass. Faaaaaack... the part is $1085 plus the cost of refrigerant. College tuition is due Aug. 14th also so guess who is going to be having a long hot summer?

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Since I can no longer afford to go out, except for work purposes, it sure as shit is convenient that I am currently living in crappy t-shirts and Old Navy boxer short PJ's. I feel slightly loser-ish when I come home from work and just put pajamas on but all I am going to do is maybe make/order dinner, work some more, clean/purge another area of my home, possibly blog or do social media things or watch Netflix. None of which require real pants so.... These are my current faves because I am mad about the big leaf print currently happening everywhere.

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I have been so unmotivated to go out lately, which is not like me at all. I am in full on hibernation mode in an attempt to save some money. It's kind of depressing on the one hand but on the other hand it's so much less effort and going to bed at 9 is kind of awesome. But...If I start drinking cardbordeaux by the end of the summer somebody come get me out.

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The Purge continues... I gave away a couple of big toy/kid items on my neighborhood Facebook site this weekend. I listed the pics and within 30 minutes a neighbor came to my house and took them off my hands. It was glorious! I also took car load number 8 to Goodwill on Monday. I am so proud of myself. The little old man who works there has this distinct "oh not you again" look when I walk in all chirpy with my crap but secretly I think he's happy to see me.

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This weekend is my daughter's party and my fam is coming from Michigan to help us celebrate. I should be cleaning something right now but meh... it will all get done. I had originally planned  a menu, cake and all of that myself. After some thought I decided to just let her kind of decide everything, pick her favorite things that I make... whether it "goes together" or not. So we shall see what we end up with, I am sure it will all be amazing! I am most excited about the cake she chose. Could you die?



I can't wait. 

Currently: Hello June

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Wednesday, June 7, 2017
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So I am technically a day late for this link up but you know, I was busy hanging out in Statesboro, GA with all the cool college kids at GA Southern University. I mean they were there and I was there but technically honestly we were not hanging out like at all. I probably had more meaningful contact with the ginormous cockroach in the bathroom of my lovely room at the Comfort Inn don't stay there than I had with any of the cool kids. I pretty much killed it... the cockroach I mean. Seriously, I need to hone my small town hotel picking skills ya'll. It looked decent in the Hotels.com pics. Anyway, more on that later but for now a quickie link up with Anne In Residence and Erin for the monthly Currently roundup.

PLANNING

Oh where do I even start with this one. After the sobering experience of taking my daughter to college freshman orientation last weekend I guess I am planning life as a parent of a child who is away at college. Looking ahead at my calendar to things like "move in day" and "parents weekend" has got me scratching my head wondering how in fact I got here. I swear 5 minutes ago she was sitting in her little rocking chair watching Toy Story 2 and crying because Jessie's owner didn't want her anymore. I never believed my Mom when she told me how fast it would go.

WISHING

I could buy tickets to all of the concerts I want to go to this summer. I have become live music obsessed and I also wish I could meet someone who was as passionate about it as I am so I could have a concert pal. Current obsession... Gary Clark Jr.... more blues rock.




LEARNING

That it's a lot easier to let go of stuff lately than I thought it would be. I have been donating lots and lots of "stuff and things" that I used to think I wanted to keep forever. Letting go of things recently has made me really think about of how little value they are to me. Less actual stuff in my world is actually making me so much happier and calmer on the inside. Who knew decluttering your physical space could also declutter your soul a lil bit.



BROWSING

Kendra Scott... not gonna lie. Spending freeze has got me like... oooooh earrings, necklaces, rings oh my. These might be my birthday gift to me. I am hoping they will just magically show up here one day though honestly.



GOING

To be pulling my hair out in just a few short days as  family descends and the graduation party actually happens in just a little more than a week. My house is not ready, I have so much cooking to do and still a ton to plan. I am flying by the seat of my pants like never before. This could be the worst party ever or maybe the very best, I'm not stressing over it. Whatever will be will be will be and the most important thing is being together and celebrating life. Somebody remind me of that in about 5 days please! I am going to Costco on Friday and I plan to buy a lot of bacon, wine, cheese, chips, salsa, beer and chocolate. It's gonna be epic.

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Mid Year Reset Time

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Thursday, June 1, 2017
RosieSandz: My Life Lessons...: My Sunday Quote of The Week... Thankful for the chance to keep on...:


Half of this year is about to be over. O-V-E-R... let that sink in. I figured now was as good a time as any to check in on some goals and take stock of where I am versus where I want to be. Welp, I am not going to bore you with the specifics of the situation but it's not good. Not good at all my friends. So that means it's time to reset on this first day of June. Here is what that looks like for me:

FOOD
SPENDING
DRINKING
SLEEP

I love starting something new on the first of the month. I was initially thinking a Whole30 would be the obvious choice from a food reset standpoint but I have my daughter's graduation party on the 17th and family in town from Michigan. It's really not an event I want to plan around a Whole30. I mean, there will be cake there so it's a no. I am thinking a 15 day mini reset or Whole15 if you will. That get's me right to the days before and hopefully thru that weekend without going completely off the rails. In reality we all know when you are hosting a party you rarely have time to really eat or drink too much anyway.  And just so we are clear I am currently about 50% off the rails or as of yesterday anyway. I have stopped making choices and fallen back into the habit of eating mindlessly rather than mindfully which for me is very dangerous. I  have to plan ahead or I fail, it's really that simple. For me that means meal prepping and planning every week without exception. It means reading menus and knowing exactly what I'm going to order before I get to where I am going, no veering off course. We went out to dinner last night after graduation and I didn't plan it. Instead I was so distracted by the 10 conversations going on when the waitress came that I just picked something random and it sucked. I got home and all I could think was why in the hell did I order that? Right now I would be ok with not seeing pounds drop or sizes go down. I am not ok with things going in the opposite direction. I think I really need this 15 day reset, I have a little damage to undo.

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I have been buying shit like crazy lately. Not big ticket items but a myriad of small things that could have just as easily been a new couch or maybe some flooring for my office. Ugh. The wallet is closed for business during the month of June. 100% spending freeze starts today. Exceptions to that rule will be graduation party supplies and related expenditures and 2 standing beauty appointments because gray hair is NOT an option. This works well with part one because spending freezes and eating out for fun do not go together. Denied.

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That brings me to part 3, dranks. It's summer y'all!!! That means frosé and rooftop margaritas right? Wrong. It means I want to cry when my alarm goes off at 5:30 a.m. & I crave nachos and donuts the next day all the live long day. Drinking any alcohol whatsoever has a disproportionately negative effect on food decisions. Why is that? One glass of wine does not equal just one serving of something less than healthy. It generally means when the waitress asks do you want the cup or bowl of cheese dip I say "Yes" and so it goes. This is a hard one because as you know I like to go out and I have this whole rooftop summer thing happening and summer tennis starts this weekend, blah, blah, whatever. I will say this, for the next 15 days I can pretty much almost guarantee that I will not be drinking... heavily.

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And last but not least I need more sleep. The beauty of all of the things I just mentioned is that if I do them I will just automatically get more and better sleep. If I'm eating right I sleep better. If I am not going out I go to bed earlier. If I am not drinking I definitely get much better quality sleep. If I am not spending money I stress less and sleep like a baby. Five-ish hours is not good enough. I must say at least once a day that I need more hours in the day. I do. I can't seem to get all of my shit done but the reality is it's never done and staying up half the night only to be a hot mess and 50% as productive the next day due to lack of sleep is not a solution. Planning is the key here too. Making lists, setting small realistic goals for tasks to be accomplished daily and weekly and scheduling sleep time just like any other goal has proven to be pretty effective for me. Back to basics on this one.

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One of my bigger picture goals for the year is actually going pretty well. That is the dreaded home purge. At some point I want to move from my current home to a smaller one and when I do I want the moving/packing process to be a breeze because let's face it, that part of moving sucks donkey balls. I want to literally be able to pack the things I use and the things I love and that's it. I think the best way to make that happen is to only own the things I use and the things I love. So that's what I have been doing, getting rid of everything else which is painful for me because I am a saver. It's also a little hard because I am getting rid of stuff from when my kids were small, from when I was married, from a place and time in my life that looks a whole lot different than where I am now. It's bittersweet for sure but it actually feels a bit liberating. So I counted and I have 7 receipts from Goodwill so far this year. That means I loaded up my car 7 times and hauled off shit to donate. That is a really big deal. The bad news is I feel like I have not even made a dent but I have lived here for 16 years so there's been some accumulation. But on that goal I am making serious headway so YAY!!!!!

How is it that almost half of 2017 is almost gone?

Brows, Botox and Lashes... Part 1

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Tuesday, May 23, 2017
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Nothing ages you more than lack of brows. Seriously. If you are not doing something to your brows you should be. You don't have to go crazy but do something. I promise it will wake up your eyes, your face and make you look younger!! I have been a brow advocate for many years but mine have gotten considerably suckier over time and I just couldn't take it anymore so here is my brow story for the day. I thought it was about time I pen some type of review post on all of the stuff I have been doing to my face lately but I think it would be a really lengthy post to cover all three at once so I am splitting it up into 2 or 3 parts. The cool thing is that between the 3 posts you can actually see all of the individual parts and they way they are coming along. Like in this post for example I still have my pitiful natural lashes. The better ones are coming in another review... stay tuned.

So...I decided this year that I was going to do a few things for me to make me feel a little bit better about some aspects of the aging process that are not pleasing me... such as disappearing brows, lashes and increasing frown lines. I mean really, why walk around looking all jacked up if you can fix yourself up a little bit and fight that asshole Father Time?  In answer to that I decided on microblading, botox and lash extensions. If you have an opinion about any type of cosmetic procedure and why it's bad, good for you but I don't care. Like I tell my kids... it's my world, you just live in it. Kidding... but seriously, these are personal decisions for anyone to try to improve/change/modify their appearance. I don't think it's anyone else's place to say what's worth it to someone else. My plan is to start small with little things that are reasonably priced, have no down time, minimal upkeep and instant results because... immediate gratification is my jam. I'll give you my thoughts on all 3 eventually, along with before (be kind) and after pictures.

First up today...

Microblading - If you are not familiar it is semi-permanent tattooed eyebrows also commonly referred to as "hairstroke eyebrows". Semi permanent because of the application process, it's not as deep as a traditional tattoo as there is no gun involved. The hair strokes are applied with a needle that is in a pen type of instrument and the artist actually applies each stroke individually. If you want to know all of the exact details check out a YouTube video for specifics. I got most of my info from my artist and friends who have already had theirs done. The whole process took 2 appointments to complete and a total of maybe 3.5 to 4 hours in all.

In the first appointment (January) she drew on new and improved brows, applied a numbing cream for about 15 minutes and then spent about 20-25 tattooing. One more round of numbing and then a little more tattooing and I was all done in a total of about 2 hours or maybe a little less. I went back a couple of months later (April) for my follow up. After living with my new brows for a few months I knew that I wanted more definition up front and just over all darkening. I was still having to fill in with a brow product daily to get the look that I like. My goal is no makeup brows. After the second appointment that is exactly what I have. I love them. The total cost was $550 for the first appointment and $100 for the touch up. Well worth being able to wake up and go with no drawing them on and filling them in every day. The pain was pretty minimal to me but I'm no stranger to tattoos so someone else may feel differently. It is a little uncomfortable because of where it is on your face. The nerve endings near my sinuses did go a little crazy both times and I got totally congested and feeling like I had to sneeze, other than that it was pretty easy. Healing time was probably about a week total. I am a rule follower so I do exactly what they tell me to do.... no getting in water for 48 hours, use a good healing product, no working out or rubbing or wearing hats. This is one cosmetic procedure that I highly recommend and will keep up. I should need another touch up in a year or two.If you are on the fence I say 100%... DO IT!

I apologize that all my pics are different lighting, makeup, etc. Clearly I am not the blogger who thinks these things thru but I think you get the idea.

Here is the before. You can see how patchy my brows are from age and over plucking. They don't match at all and they are very, very light. My right brow is definitely the couch potato loser.

During and after my first session. This is how she drew them on and then applied the numbing cream. Soooo attractive I had to take a pic. And below that the end result of the first session.


And this is after round 2. We added more shape, extra hair strokes all around but especially in the front because I wanted a specific look (like my original brows circa 1992), and darkened the base color just a bit. 


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Again, I cannot say enough about how thrilled I am with my results. I am sorry I waited so long to get them done. Between the brows and the lashes (review coming soon) I have seriously shaved some dramatic time off of my daily beauty routine too. I think my face looks more youthful and my eyes a little less tired. All good stuff right there. Any questions?