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Goals Part Deux: 18 For 2018

Monday, January 22, 2018

Since I did another post on my goals for 2018 Part 1 I guess I better finish up this thought with my Part 2 huh? Well my Part 2 is completely stolen from the Happier Podcast by Gretchen Rubin but it's ok because she put it out there for all of us to get on board with. If you don't listen to this podcast check it out, it is one I really enjoy and find offers a lot of good practical advice on how to make your life just better overall. So, on the podcast the challenge was to come up with a list of 18 things you want to do in 2018 and it could be anything at all. This is not just about huge life goals but also an opportunity to set the bar low and just check off a few regular things too. Things that you pretty much always have time for but maybe you just don't do. This is not about goals in big broad terms either, it's about giving yourself specific action items if you will. For example instead of "eat healthy" how about pack a healthy lunch to take to work at least 3 days a week... that kind of thing. Anyway here is what I came up with for my 18...

Buy some hiking shoes and hit Sweetwater Creek State Park. Maybe not just this one but it's something I have wanted to do for awhile. I have come to grips with not really being a gym person at this point in life but I like walking outdoors and nature is like Xanax for me.

Finish the book It Starts With Food that I bought 2 years ago and do a real Whole30 Reintroduction phase by the book. Complete with mini-resets as needed.

Take a day trip to Athens, GA and visit Creature Comforts Brewery. Because beer.

Have a date night with my kids once a month and pick a new place at least every other time. 

Go to Michigan.

Lose 30 lbs. This really not that daunting considering that most likely after Whole30 is over I'll be close to halfway there. 

Paint and purge at least 3 areas/rooms of my house that I currently am not fond of. 

Practice the One Minute Rule regularly. This is another Gretchen Rubin thing... the idea is to immediately do any tasks that come up if they will take 1 minute or less to complete. Like... hanging up your coat, putting dishes in the dishwasher instead of the sink, read mail and toss it, etc. 

Clean out the side of my garage that is currently not usable as a garage so that when Olivia is home she can park her car in it not in the driveway.

Visit Oakland Cemetery and actually take the tour.

Have dinner at Golden Eagle. 2018 birthday maybe?

Take a one day/afternoon class in something I have never done before.

Read 12 books or 1 a month.

Delegate, delegate, delegate. I have 2 able bodied children living in my house and a huge team of people at work at my disposal. I need to get better about allowing others assist in the big projects so I don't get burned out and pissed off.

Host a brunch at my home. As much as I love brunch I have never hosted a fun brunch. I have had family/holiday things like Easter or Baptisms but I want to do a fun friends day drinking event. Maybe during Wimbledon?

Take the kids on a surprise weekend trip somewhere unexpected that we can drive to. Southerners give me ideas!!!

Find a way to organize my shoes. Ugh... this part of my closet is an embarrassment.

Bake a grain free paleo cake. I have this beautiful book on paleo baking and I haven't even made a damn cake yet.

So there's my list. Some things are rather small  but just stuff I want to do. Some things may seem silly to someone else but that's not the point either. I tried really hard to be specific so I can actually   say hey... this IS what it is exactly and check it off when it's done. I need concrete rules to be successful, I know this. Another idea they talked about on the podcast was creating this list with your spouse or partner which I think would be very cool too. Now... what to tackle first. 

Five Things Friday

Friday, January 12, 2018
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Twelve days into the new year. How is everyone doing? Not gonna lie I feel pretty amazing now that I have cast aside all of my overindulgent holiday habits. Damn, I forgot how much better I feel when I am putting in the work, at least in the beginning when everything is shiny and new. So, just checking in with a few things of note...


Since everyone is doing a word of the year  and I have the Stage 4 FOMO I will not be left out. I really didn't have to give this one too much thought and it's not like I even planned it but it just sort of occurred to me thanks to Tinder. Yes, I actually learned something about myself and where I am in my mindset from Tinder of all places. A common question you get asked early on in the online dating process is "what are you looking for"? My answer to this a question used to be sort of  planned out... blah blah blah, good sense of humor, tall, play sports, non-smoker, likes music ... I used to always answer the question with traits I would like to see in someone else. Seems logical right? Over the past year I have spent a lot of time really asking myself that question and not in terms of a relationship just in terms of life in general. I have come to some conclusions and now when someone asks me on Tinder I might throw out a few character traits but I find myself saying "I want to live a simpler life"... overwhelmingly this is my answer. It's a process and it's not easy because it involves a lot of real and honest introspection but I have been and will continue to work toward that goal very intentionally. So, my word of the year...


Whole30 Round 4 is in full swing for me over here and I am loving it, mostly. I mean there are moments of anger and longing when I walk by my pretty wine glasses or think of a nacho mountain at the bar with my bestie but overall the positives way overshadow those moments. After eleven days my energy levels are way up during the day, I'm sleeping better and waking up is a whole lot easier. My digestive issues are GONE, I won't get too in depth here but trust me, what a relief. My beloved dairy is really not my friend. I don't really feel any smaller but I never really do until closer to the end so I am not concerned with weight loss. I totally get off on the structure of these 30 days. Best thing ever for me to get back on track.


So I lied. I said no more festivals. I was wrong, there will be more festivals because Sweetwater 420 Fest this year that's why. Bands that I love, bands that I have been unable to afford, bands that I am dying to see and a free place to stay in town for the weekend. I am so glad I took a chance and bought 1 lonely early bird ticket for myself last October for $89.

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So I guess this will be me in a few short months...

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This is just an observation really but I get a little sad when the holidays are over. It's such a let down when the parties and family time is over, lazy mornings give way to battling traffic and rushing around. But on the other hand I really like January. I love my annual Whole30 as you know but other than that January is just chill. The kids are starting a new semester so there are no major school things going on. Kids sports have not started yet. Winter tennis is just kicking off. Taking all of the Christmas crap down after a month makes me feel like I have a new house. And best of all everyone is hibernating. I don't really want to go out much at this time of year and it's so easy because there is nothing to do!I am spending 2/3 of this month in pajamas and slippers and it is absofuckinglutely glorious.


I am literally out of my mind with excitement to go meet Melissa Hartwig here in Atlanta this coming Monday night. The Whole30 book tour is coming and I am going. Am I the only one that gets totally starstruck by meeting a favorite author?? How ironic is it to get the meet the creator of Whole30 while actually doing a Whole30? I know... dork.

Have a fabulous weekend.

Currently; January 2018

Wednesday, January 3, 2018

January. month.

STARTING - My 4th round of Whole30, in case you didn't know. I can't believe it has been since 2015 since I did this for the 1st time. So much has happened in 3 years but I am really hoping to capture that excitement and fierce commitment that brought me such amazing results the first time. 

HOPING - That we get just a little more snow... I know, don't shoot me. It's so freaking cold here for us the least Mother Nature could do is make it a little pretty and fun. I am happy to hole up and sit by the fire for the entire month of January. 

SCHEDULING - A girls trip.. either Savannah for St. Pat's Day to see them turn the river green and drink lots o' beer or Nashville... haven't decided yet. 

READING -  You Are A Badass ... I know a few people who have read this and given it great reviews. I think my inner dialogue is what I struggle with the most so looking forward to hear what she has to say about it.  Plus New Year New You and all of that...

PLAYING - A Black Mile To The Surface by Manchester Orchestra on repeat. I can not get enough of this album. Music is life. 

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What are you up to currently?

Linking up with Anne as usual... 

I Am Not Available; Goals for 2018 Part 1

Friday, December 29, 2017

Life is a lot more simple when you avoid social media where only the best of people's lives are promoted. I enjoy my achievements in silence.

Just like everyone else I am currently mulling over the last year in my head and thinking toward the next. How can I make 2018 better? 2017 was meh at best. That is not acceptable. Or is it? Does every year have to be the best year ever? We all start out thinking that is how it's going to be right? That's the plan anyway. 

As I have been thinking about the last year a recurring theme keeps showing up. I am not all that available. I made a bunch of lists in my planner at the beginning of 2017 of things I wanted to do, places to visit, activities to try, bars/restaurants to check out. As I looked over the lists I started to think that all of these things were totally doable and some I did, but a lot I did not. Didn't even attempt. So the big question is why. And the answer is... time... I am very busy. I know that has become a joke phrase but it has some truth to it for all of us.

I had a conversation with this guy I've been hanging out with for the last 2 months the other day. He also plays tennis and enjoys it but he told me one of his thoughts for 2018 is to play a little less. I was like ... why??? It's good for you, it's social, gets you outside, something you can do with me, the list could go on but I stopped there. His answer was a little bit of a light bulb moment for me. Why would you do less of something that you love doing? Because it would make time for other things, new things, things that you might love just as much or even more that would add dimension and richness to your life. That's not exactly the way he said it but that is my answer to myself. I know this is not an earth shattering idea but I never really thought about the option of just partially eliminating something that I enjoy. I enjoy tennis but to play on multiple teams is very time consuming. Are there other things on those lists from last year that I might enjoy more? I need to free up some time to really explore that.

So that is going to be a big goal for me this year. Not trying to find more time but realigning what I am currently doing with the 24/7/365 that I already have. I am constantly declining invitations because I say I don't have time. I try to schedule dates with guys and when I look at my planner there are usually 1 or 2 free nights out of every 7. And men will always respond with skepticism and say "are you sure you even have time to date/develop a relationship" to which I always say "yes of course I do" but no... I really don't and I have proven that fact. But I could if I make some changes. I could if I really put the effort into being more honest about the things that bring me joy in my life. If I am really honest with myself I am kind of just bored with some parts of my life. I feel like I have outgrown a lot of it but I just keep doing it because it's what I do. But there are all of these other things I want to do too. So it's time to streamline a bit and see what new and exciting things can happen.

Did any of that even make sense? Cause I was just really thinking out loud. 

Re Cap -

A goal of mine for 2018 is to examine more closely the way my current activities make me feel. Am I excited about them or have they become just something that I do more or less like a habit?

If the latter is the case I think it may be time to change something. Wow I spent a whole post writing about 1 goal. I guess I'll try for a Part 2 at a later date.